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What You Need To Know To Be A Successful Public Speaker

Filed Under: Fear
Jul.14, 2010

What do you think people fear the most in life? Is it death, spiders, darkness? While those things all make the top five, the greatest thing people fear is speaking in public. There is something nightmarishly terrifying about that moment when you stand up in front of a group of people and open your mouth. Your palms get sweaty, your throat runs dry, you swallow and try to speak but your voice ends up sounding like a doped up toad. Speaking in public doesn’t have to be like this. Just like any fear, there are steps you can take to get over it.

One of the best ways to be a confident speaker is to prepare ahead of time. Some people can give a speech impromptu. Don’t try it. If you want to give a good speech and not be a nervous wreck, plan what you are going to say before you get on the stage or to the front of the class. Make an outline and stick with it. Don’t be a speaker that rambles. If you have something of value to say, spit it out.

Another thing you might want to do is keep your body still when you speak. Public speaking seems to draw out the most irritating and annoying habits in people. Hand motions and gesturing are fine as long as they are used appropriately. Shifting, adjusting the microphone stand a hundred times, sticking your hands in your pockets, saying um, or arranging and rearranging your hands, quickly notifies the crowd that you’re anxious. Once the crowd knows you’re nervous, they’ll get uncomfortable. Eliminate those nervous habits, whatever they might be. Try giving a speech in front of trusted friends, and have them tell you what your habits are. Then work on eliminating them.

The most important thing to do is practice. Practice by yourself first. Don’t panic if even that makes you nervous, that’s perfectly normal. Practice by yourself until you know your material and can present it well. Then practice in front of a mirror and see if you notice anything that looks strange or awkward about your posture, hand motions, or other body language. If you feel ready, practice some more in front of several friends or family members. The key to becoming a successful public speaker is practice. Rarely does someone start off wanting to speak in public. Even most of the world’s motivational speakers were terrified of speaking at one point.

Public speaking is something almost everyone hates doing. Relax. Know what you’re going to say, keep still, and practice. Get these three things down and you’ll be ready. Speaking reminds me of a security system. Just like you will become more confident and secure in your speaking abilities with practice, with a home security, you will become more confident and secure in the safety of your home. Now go practice and dazzle your audience.

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How To Make A Speech Less Stressful

Filed Under: Fear
Jul.10, 2010

Terrified of speaking in public? Have a speech approaching? Don’t panic, there’s still hope! There’s one simple way to draw attention away from yourself and give you more confidence. Ladies and gentlemen, may I present to you the power point.

By incorporating a power point into your speech you automatically have many advantages. For one thing, you no longer have to have a messy outline continually shaking in your hands. For another thing, you have a far greater chance of not only keeping your audience half way awake, but of diverting their attention away from how nervous you look, and toward the screen.

If you’re going to use a power point there are several things you should do. First, perfect your slides. I’ve seen too many power points littered with grammatical errors, blurry images, blinding colors, unreadable text, and worse. Select fonts that are easily readable, and never set text in bright red or yellow, as they often don’t appear on the screen. Use high contrast colors, such as black and white, to ensure everything appears clearly. Use large fonts but never put everything in capital letters, as this is unprofessional. Make your slides clean and easy to read. Don’t overwhelm your audience with each new slide you use.

When it comes to actually using your slide show, make sure your transitions are at a relatively constant speed. The standard time to spend on one slide is three to five minutes. It is also imperative that you do not read what you’ve written on each slide word for word. The text should serve as a general outline and is a way to engage the audience. If you read the text on the screen verbatim, your audience will wonder why you are even there, after all, they know how to read too.

Hopefully, these few tips on giving a power point will ease the tension for you. Don’t worry, everyone fears giving speeches. Now that you know how to properly use a power point you’ll do better. A power point is a substantial tool for speakers. As a power point is to a speech, so a security system is to a house. A power point keeps the audience awake and enhances the speech. A security system wakes up sleeping homeowners when their home is being broken into, and enhances the house. The two are quite similar in some ways.

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Tips On Public Speaking

Filed Under: Fear
Jul.07, 2010

Public speaking is something most people dread. Even people who have done it several times can still freeze up on stage or lose their train of thought due to fear. In order to become a more competent speaker then, it is important to do several things.

The first thing one can do is to understand the audience. Is this a speaking engagement at a convention for business owners, or a presentation for a management class? The tone of the speech should be determined based on the audience. A speaker should always speak in a way that will be effective in communicating with the audience. All jokes, slang, or stories should be carefully tailored to fit the audience. What is said to the board of directors should be entirely different from what is said to a high school class.

Another aspect of knowing the audience is understanding the occasion and what that means when it comes to attire. Dressing in a way that the audience will see as tasteful and respectful is important. As a speaker, it’s always better to be overdressed, than underdressed. A speaker should not wear lurid jewelry that will jingle with every gesture of the hand or draw attention away from what is being said. Women should not wear low-cut blouses. Everyone should wear clothes that are flattering but will not draw attention. The audience should look at the speaker’s face and concentrate on her words. This means if long hair or bangs are constantly getting into the eyes, they should be pulled back. Tucking hair behind the ears every five minutes gives an unprofessional impression and irritates the audience.

Perhaps one of the most important things to do while speaking is to give eye contact. A speaker that looks at the floor or locks onto one object, and never looks anywhere else, gives the impression of a terrified and trapped animal. A speaker can put the audience at ease, and make them think he’s confident, by giving good eye contact. This does not mean staring at only one or two individuals. Everyone should be given equal amounts of eye contact.

Public speaking can be an exciting adventure. Practicing these tips will prepare one to speak in front of large crowds without a problem. Touring America due to speaking engagements can happen without the usual worry and anxiety. The next thing the new speaker will want to do is install a home security system to keep her house safe when she’s gone.

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Tips On Public Speaking

Filed Under: Fear
Jul.07, 2010

Public speaking is something most people dread. Even people who have done it several times can still freeze up on stage or lose their train of thought due to fear. In order to become a more competent speaker then, it is important to do several things.

The first thing one can do is to understand the audience. Is this a speaking engagement at a convention for business owners, or a presentation for a management class? The tone of the speech should be determined based on the audience. A speaker should always speak in a way that will be effective in communicating with the audience. All jokes, slang, or stories should be carefully tailored to fit the audience. What is said to the board of directors should be entirely different from what is said to a high school class.

Another aspect to public speaking is knowing what attire goes with what audience. Dressing in a way that the audience will respect and see as tasteful is important. As a speaker, it’s always better to be overdressed, than underdressed. A speaker should not wear garish jewelry that will jingle with every gesture of the hand or draw attention away from what is being said. Women should avoid wear low-cut blouses. Everyone should wear clothes that are flattering but will not draw attention. The audience should look at the speaker’s face and concentrate on her words. This means if long hair or bangs are constantly getting into the eyes, they should be pulled back. Tucking hair behind the ears every five minutes gives an unprofessional impression and irritates the audience.

Perhaps one of the most important things that can be done while speaking, is giving eye contact. A speaker that looks only at the floor or stares with a lost expression at the back of the room, gives the impression of a terrified and trapped animal. A speaker can put the audience at ease, and make them think she’s confident, by giving good eye contact. This does not mean staring at only two or three individuals. Eye contact should be distributed across the room evenly.

Public speaking can be a fun adventure. Practicing these tips will prepare one to speak in front of crowds without a problem. Touring America with speaking engagements will happen without the usual worry and anxiety. The next thing the new speaker will want to do is install a home security system to keep her house safe when she’s gone.

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Professional Speaking Tips

Filed Under: Fear
Jun.26, 2010

While anyone that can get up the nerve can speak in public, not everyone can speak well. In order to give a good speech there must be a clear structure and order. There are three basic parts of a speech: the beginning, middle, and end. By studying how each should be included in a speech, one can give quality speeches.

The beginning of a speech is the most important and needs to include a short introduction. It also needs to give a brief overview of what will be discussed so that the audience will know what to expect. The beginning should start with some sort of question, quote, or statement that will instantly catch the audience’s attention. Speaking in front of a group of people is like meeting someone new. There is a span of a few minutes in which the audience will form an opinion about the speaker. Is the speaker confident, interesting, or cocky? If the interest of the audience is not captured within the first few minutes it will be lost forever. Start a presentation or speech with a bang. Be creative.

The middle of the speech should be a series of clearly outlined points. It is thought that odd numbers of points are more easily remembered than even numbers. Three and five are the two most commonly used sets of numbers. Anything with more than five main points becomes difficult to recall.

The end is the second most important part. The ending should include a brief summary of what has been discussed, and should then be quickly wrapped up. The key to the ending is to be strong and concise. Many people these days end with a fragmented sentence such as, “And that’s a little about hydraulics for you. So . . .”. Ending a speech with “so” or with a flimsy ending such as “that’s all I have for ya,” are not acceptable. This is the last chance to impress the audience. It is also the last chance to burn into their mind what has been said.

Structuring a speech is important to gain the respect of an audience. Structuring is also important when it comes to a house. An orderly, clean house with a security system gives a structured appearance that will frighten burglars away.

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Possible Complications You Should Be Aware Of Before Undergoing Surgery

Filed Under: Anxiety
May.28, 2010

There are very few people that aren’t afraid of having to have surgery. The after effects can be very painful. You can end up with a painful incision, have to use special bandaging, and avoid getting the area wet. This can all be very overwhelming and extremely frustrating.

The fear of infection is always a major concern and can be a mind boggling prospect. If you know what to look for however, you will be able to prevent huge life altering problems that can be caused from infection.

Infection: This is the biggest worry. Five hundred thousand out of every twenty-seven million surgeries end up having some sort of infection every year. This can end up being an infection at the point of incision or even in your blood. If you find yourself feeling malaise: tired, feeling like there is something wrong and down in the dumps, you may have an infection in your blood.

With both types of infection fever is usually present. When the wound is infected there area is going to feel hot, harden, develop a distinct redness, swell, and produce fluids such as pus that could drain from the incision. It will also hurt more and more as time goes on.

It is imperative that if you notice any of these signs you go immediately to the doctor of an urgent care or emergency room.

Hemorrhage: A slight bit of bleeding after surgery is normal in most cases. If you bandage becomes very bloody and appears to be dripping with blood however, you may be dealing with a hemorrhage.

If you have the above symptoms you need to get to your doctor’s office of the emergency room immediately. If you don’t, you could likely bleed to death. Be sure to apply constant pressure to the wound on the way to hold back some of the bleeding.

Blood Clots: If you notice that you have an abnormal pain in your leg after a surgery you may have a clot. Blood clots that turn up after surgeries can lead to heart attacks, strokes, and pulmonary embolism. Each of these conditions can be life threatening. See you doctor immediately is this is the sensation that you are experiencing.

Nerve Complications: When you have a surgical procedure performed on a limb, you could develop nerve complications. These arise by swelling or a clot that is on the nerve. This is not an emergency situation but it is necessary that you see your doctor for treatment.

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Fear Of Needles – Uncovering Your Phobia

Filed Under: Fear
May.17, 2010

Many people have a fear of needles and this can make it difficult to have a shot. They can even become very uncomfortable around needles even if the procedure has nothing to do with them. Most times this fear results in a flight response as they want to get as far away as possible from that needle as possible.

The context of the needle is very important when dealing with your fear. Many people may not have a problem with needles when they are used for sewing but are petrified of needles when you have to have a shot or got to the dentist. The first step to getting over your fear is figuring the actual cause of your fear.

As with any phobia you need to try to understand what is the trigger to that phobia or if you can uncover what encounter caused your fear of needles. Some people may not have a problem with needles at the doctors but become paralyzed when going to the dentist.

Hypnotherapy can be a great way to treat your fear of needles. Chronic and long standing fear of needles can be successful to curing your fear of needles. This type of therapy uncovers what caused your fear, mainly a childhood experience and then giving you calming exercises to try when you start to panic.

You can also use behavioral therapy so that when you come into contact with a needle instead of getting your instinctive flight response you instead have a different response that does not end with panic. You can also force yourself to do this. So when you encounter needles you take deep breathes or think of something else entirely.

Though if you just have a fear of needles when you are at the dentist, since you only need to go once a year to the dentist it may not be a great concern to overcome this fear. Fear of needles may not be that big of a concern as you may not be around needles that frequently.

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Do You Have A Fear Of Drinking?

Filed Under: Phobia
Mar.19, 2010

You can get past your fear of drinking now, this instant. It’s all about wanting to accomplish and get past the fear. Using methods that will allow you to redirect the way that your mind will react. Losing the fear once and for all, never to have another problem with it.

It’s not really even a cure or treatment, but the process of changing how you react subconsciously to your fears. You will learn the methods and your body will take over and automatically switch to those methods when faced with your fear. You will also learn that your self confidence will increase with these methods.

The steps and methods that you can learn can help you control so much more in life. Anxiety, guilt, hurt, sadness and anger are some examples. Most likely your fear will have come about due to a negative experience that happened before in your past.

Since you had that experience now your body and mind reacts in a negative way when you’re faced with your fear again. Though some people will be at a greater risk in their life to fear. Such people as those who are high strung, or may have adrenal deficiencies, even those who have a bunch of anxiety.

If you have this fear and you want to get over it, you can do so now. You won’t have to worry about the panic and anxiety that you feel when you are faced with drinking.

Medicine is not a good answer when you’re faced with this type of fear. It’s not going to cure you but it is possible that it will mask the problem over instead. Since you are searching out a way to get past your fear you need to use a method of how you can change your reactions for good, rather than on a temporary basis.

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Suffering A Fear Of Mushrooms

Filed Under: Phobia
Mar.11, 2010

The fear of mushrooms is called Mycophobia. The number of confirmed sufferers is relatively small as phobias go but that’s no consolation if you happen to be afflicted with this problem. Most people have a healthy respect for the wild mushroom after childhood training to avoid them. Safety is a valid concern. When the fear of mushrooms becomes irrational and impacts a sufferer’s life the term Mycophobia applies.

Agoraphobics are often unable to lead a normal life. Other phobias have varying impacts on normal lives. A fear of mushrooms is only a small inconvenience for most mycophobes who have learned to avoid unexpected mushrooms. When the fear of mushrooms causes screams and immobility the life of the mycophobe becomes a daily challenge.

How often do we encounter mushrooms in our daily lives? Most of us cannot even remember when we last saw a mushroom. If we suffered from a fear of mushrooms we would realize there are daily encounters with mushrooms in one form or another. A mushroom can “jump out” in unexpected places and cause an irrational fear reaction. A short walk along a sidewalk beside a mushroom can be nearly impossible to a mycophobe.

A trip to the supermarket will certainly put a fear of mushrooms to the test. If your fear is triggered by the very sight of a mushroom you will have to plan your supermarket trip aisle by aisle to avoid the mushrooms in the produce aisles and, depending on your degree of fear, even the canned vegetables.

A meal in a nice restaurant can be a challenge. Mushrooms are widely used to add flavor and appearance to many dishes. A fear of mushrooms can require questioning the waiter repeatedly to be sure no mushrooms are in the various menu items.

Most Mycophobes lead rather normal lives and manage to disguise their reactions when unexpectedly confronted by a mushroom. If your fear of mushrooms has become incapacitating there are several treatment options. An internet search for “Mycophobia treatment” returned over 200 results.

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What Is The Fear Of Accidents?

Filed Under: Phobia
Mar.11, 2010

The fear of accidents can sometimes rule your life. You might find that you hate driving. For some, the fear of accidents leads them to being over cautious. Others find that they can’t even be a passenger in a car without worrying. There are many names for this disease, but you might be wondering how you can get over it.

The point is, anyone can have this fear of accidents. It makes no particular distinction between male and females, age, income group or education level. Many people in well noted jobs have had this fear of accidents. Why is this? This is because like you, something has happened that brought a sudden out of control feeling to them and created this fear of accidents.

Doctors sometimes have this fear. They don’t have a fear about themselves getting into accidents – they can rationalize that phobia quite well. Instead, they fear a victim coming in who has been involved in an accident. The fear might stem from a time when they almost lost a patient after that patient had suffered an accident.

The degree at which the fear of accidents is depends on what sort of things they have seen. It also depends on how bad of an accident they think they can have. For some people, it’s so bad that they can’t even drive because they are afraid of getting in a car accident.

For some people, they can control this fear. For others, they have to work on getting over the fear. In many cases, those who have a fear of accidents have to see someone. They might not consciously know what is keeping them from not fearing what they have to do. Talking to someone who can uproot the problem is their only solution to overcoming this problem.

It leads them to giving up parts of their lives that one shouldn’t miss out on. If you think you have this condition, please talk to someone if it has gotten this bad. You’ll be glad that you’ve finally taken this small step to overcome your phobia.

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